💬 Dopamine Hit of the Week
The more reasons you need to do a thing, the wronger it is. The good deed requires no explanation. Justification is an admission of guilt!
👋🏾 Hey friends
I was scrolling this morning when i stumbled upon the above quote.
And i want to explore this thought and relate it to our interpersonal life’s as well as our intrapersonal life’s as professionals, creatives and human.
Interpersonal being the relationships with other people, be it our family or friends.
Intrapersonal being the relations or dynamics that takes place in our mind.
Tangible or not we justify our actions every day
Why we work harder, our consumption or even rest and here is what you need to know about that justification.
🔍 The Justification Delusion
It’s a trap.
This justification is a way for us to rationalize and delude ourselves
Into believing that our thoughts, our actions, how we treat others but most importantly how we treat ourself is right…
Especially when it is not.
And the more reasons, the more justifications we need, the more NOT RIGHT it is.
(keep in mind not right means not right for us or misaligned)
Context is key here.
Please note that i am not saying if you have to look for reasons to help someone then helping is wrong
But
If you are looking for reasons to cross someone in business you will have to delude yourself to believe what you are doing to be right and/or to avoid the guilt of who you are…
Also, if you really have to think up multiple reasons to help someone in need how pure are those intentions?
Lets take this with in and look at how many times we need to come up with reasons to do things we know are not right for us but want to do anyways.
We tell ourselves
One more video then i’ll go to bed i’ve worked hard today
I can go to gym tomorrow
I deserve this ( then look for a thousand reasons to justify what you deserve because deep down you know you don’t deserve this)
This entry of Dose of Dopamine might sound a bit too real or too harsh, but it’s actually important to know and understand this because this is the key to unlocking your alignment.
🧠 Why Justify?
Please do not read this as if i speak from a point of moral authority because I do not.
In fact, it is my lack there of that allows me to speak so freely on this topic, because i’ve had to ask WHY?
Why do i feel the need to justify my actions?
Why do i need to over explain to others but also to myself?
why do my words not always match my actions?
Why I’m i misaligned ?
The answers shocked me.
BUT
inner peace
Gif by regalmovies on Giphy
you already know the answer.
💭 The Answer
The more reasons you need to do a thing, the wronger it is. The good deed requires no explanation. Justification is an admission of guilt!
We feel the need to justify our actions because…
even if they are right or wrong (it does not matter) we want to perceived ourselves
a certain way which is why we over explain not just to others but ourselves.
This is also why our words and actions do not align.
We are lying to ourselves to hide from the guilt.
Be honest with yourself.
Accept that guilt and by accepting it creates your compass.
And that creates alignment with what you say and what you do.
So next time you say…“I will do X”
X happens without fails and you do not need to justify it.
So be truthful to yourself and
keep building, with honesty.
— Mallentino
